By Sabrina McDonald
My husband is not the verbal type. He doesn’t like long conversations or reading. (So, why did he marry a writer? … We can’t figure that out either.)
But he loves to text.
He can send a short “I love you” or “Missing you” or just send a picture. (After all, it paints 1,000 words, right? That should be good enough … said no wife, ever.)
Early in our marriage, I suggested we start praying together. It’s a helpful practice in many ways—stronger intimacy with God, each other, and it makes prayer a priority. He was willing, yet woefully underwhelmed.
He didn’t know what to say or when to quit, and I felt like I was forcing him into legalism.
So I gave up the coercion. But I still had this longing to connect with my husband through prayer.
That’s when I decided to employ texting. Most days after my daily route to school and back, I search for a scripture to pray over my husband.
Sometimes the verse encourages his personal struggles. Sometimes it reflects a struggle I have with him (even though he doesn’t know it). And sometimes it’s a blessing I pray over him.
I copy the verse and send it to him via text: “This is my prayer for you today.”
I can’t tell you how much he loves getting those texts! Sometimes the scripture so inspires him, he forwards it to friends or family. I’ve overheard him telling others how much these prayers mean to him, and he’s often mentioned they make him feel loved.
Even though we don’t pray hand in hand, these daily texts do what I was hoping daily prayers would do. They bring us closer to God and each other.
So if you and your spouse can’t seem to connect spiritually, don’t give up. Maybe you could modify prayer the way we have. Injecting prayer and God’s Word into your marriage is a plus, however you do it.
The good stuff: Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. (James 5:16)
Action points: Why not start texting a scripture of prayer to your spouse today? Think of other creative ways you can inject prayer into your relationship through your daily rhythms. Consider the struggles your spouse or your marriage is going through and look up scriptures that apply to those situations.
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